I have a good friend who I’ve known since I was in high school. We’ve both been married for close to 20 years. She has spent most of that time in the military, which I totally understand. She’s also been involved in my career as a sales executive.
My wife, Kristi, is actually pretty good at yelling. I just don’t like it that much. (Although I have to admit, I like it when she yells at me when she thinks I’m off-track, but that’s about it.
I’m going to assume that the reason you are not happy with your wife’s yelling is that she is yelling at you, because yelling at your wife is one of the things you are supposed to be doing instead of yelling at her.
I have to be honest, I dont like it that much. I have two kids, and they are just as demanding as I am when it comes to my time. The worst part about it is that while she is yelling at me, I have to look at her and try to decipher what is about to happen. Ive had a few conversations about this, but Im still not sure that I know what the hell is going on.
So you don’t yell at her. You wait until she’s asleep and then you get up and quietly and quietly sneak up to the bed. You take her face between your hands and gently squeeze so that she doesn’t wake up and scream at you to come back. You take a deep breath and walk away. You don’t ever come back.
The idea was that we were creating a “one-man-one-woman” party. That the two of you would be the only two people in the room. So once she woke up at the party, you could basically say, “Oh, by the way, I really need to get out of here.
And then you would sneak out and go back to your own room and have a good night.
I think this is the one of the most important things you can do for your marriage. It is so important because there are so many little things that can end up throwing your marriage into a tailspin or making you lose your temper (or both) that you dont want to repeat. When your wife is yelling at you, you will probably go to the door and open it for her, and she will probably yell back at you, and then you will both have to talk about it.
Well, as you can imagine, the whole first day is full of yelling and yelling. My wife is the voice of reason in this household and I can probably count on the fingers of one hand the times I’ve heard her yell at me. I’m not even sure if she could yell at me this often, so when I open the door to go back to my own room to take a nap, she will probably yell at me again.
This has happened more than once. It’s not every day that you take your wife into your bedroom and she yells at you. It is also not every day you have to talk about it. But the most common thing that happens is you go to your bed because you both are tired and you both need to go to bed, and then you both start yelling at each other.