I know this isn’t a good news story or even a typical one. His behavior toward me has always been very erratic. Whenever I get into an argument or get into a rut, he goes into a different zone and doesn’t really notice I’m in. I have tried to use this to my advantage in many ways, but every time I do, I discover he is coming back at me. I keep asking why he does this.
Its time for me to start taking a few lessons from the many parents who have told similar stories.
I hate that I am doing this to my son. And I hate that I am doing this to my husband. Because I know that this isnt about the child. Its about the parent. Its about the person who is constantly complaining how their child isnt doing what they say they are doing. Its time for me to start taking a few lessons from the many parents who have told similar stories.
I get that. There’s a reason why the phrase “never argue with a man about his feelings” is used often in counseling. It comes from a time when people could be very hurtful, and you really don’t want to hurt them.
I can’t help it. I get a little crazy when I get over thinking about it. Just like I get over thinking about that person who is constantly complaining about how their child is not doing something that they say they are. And just like I get over thinking about that person who is constantly saying negative things about their ex-girlfriend who is constantly complaining about how she doesn’t have the kids she says she does.
And the weird thing is that in some cases, when you think about those things it’s not that bad. The people who complain about their kids are just complaining about themselves. If they were actually mean to their kids, it would be more obvious, and the people who say negative things about their ex-girlfriend are just being a bitch.
The whole thing about the kids is one of those things that’s like, “I don’t get it, why are you talking about your kids this way?” It comes off sounding like you’re talking about your own kids in this conversation. And I don’t think anyone has said this to their kids, but you’re gonna be a single mom for a few years and you’re going to have kids. They are the most important thing in your life.
I think you mean that your husband has taken negative things out on your son, but I don’t think it’s so much his fault. Sure, he’s the one who is always criticizing the kids, but he’s probably not the one who has been bad.
My husband always gets jealous and angry when I have children because I love my son and he never gets to see them the way he wants. This seems to be something that happens when you have a relationship that is not good. It seems to be a way of me communicating I trust my husband not to be angry with my son when he gets angry with me.
It could be something that has no negative connotation at all. I’m just not sure. How many times have we been in a car with our son? My husband never takes the car to pick up the kids. We have taken it to get the kids groceries or have them pick up the kids’ clothes. We never have a problem with it being an issue in the relationship. We are quite happy with our marriage.