I really don’t. Not for any reason.
When I met my boyfriend’s friends, we had been dating for a while and were getting along well. Then one night when we were at each other’s houses to celebrate some anniversary, he asked me to take him to this “relationship” party. (To be specific, he asked me to go to the party with him because his friends were already there and were going to hang out).
It was a party, but it wasn’t really a date. It was more of a “you should come and hang out with me” date. After I told him I was going to go, he just went back to talking to his friends. I didn’t go because I don’t have a date.
I told him I didnt have a date because I dont have a guy, but he still asked me to go with him to his friends party. We went and he was in total denial about it. We were both in our 20s, and we had an open relationship. I told him that I had a boyfriend, and he was like, “whatever.” I dont think he was going to go to his friends party with me because I was the only girl there.
That’s the thing though. If you’re single, it’s fine to be single. If you’re in a relationship, though, you’re not in a relationship. If you’re a guy in a relationship, you’re not really a guy in a relationship.
The trouble is that we’ve all had experiences that are different than this and not just any guy in a relationship. We each have our own issues, but some guys just don’t want to be in a relationship. Some guys don’t want to share their interests and feelings with a girl. Some guys are just not into dating.
This is a big topic, and I mean big. But it all boils down to this: What do you want from your partner? And what do you want from yourself? If youre not sure, you can always ask your best friend.
It’s probably the simplest thing in the world, but it really is that simple. Most of us have experienced being in a relationship that wasn’t what we wanted, or wasn’t what we thought we wanted, or was just wrong. You just dont really understand what that word means until you find out.
The reason so many of us are single is because we dont want to be. It comes down to this thing called “fear.” If youre afraid of something, youre probably not going to do it because that fear is paralyzing. But if you get over your fear, it opens the door to the things you want to do. Forgive yourself for being too afraid to ask your partner out on a date. Be open to new experiences.
I really wish we could have been more honest with each other. I hope I was able to be a little more honest with you too. When I was talking to my girlfriend earlier this morning, I was feeling a little depressed because everything that I had been through in my life had made me pretty much incapable of making love for my partner. I was feeling down because I didn’t feel like I had it in me to be in a committed relationship, or to have sex with my partner.