We are so busy with all of our daily tasks that we often don’t think about the things that make us upset and hurt us. The truth is, we often don’t acknowledge what is going on in our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors until they start to really affect us. The way I approach relationships is to first recognize what we are feeling and what we are doing. Then, I then use those same feelings and actions to acknowledge and address those issues.
I am often told that I don’t have enough emotional intelligence. This is simply not true. I have enough emotional intelligence to recognize my own emotions, to realize that I am causing myself problems, and to know that I am not in the right relationship. It is about not giving in to my emotions, even at the risk of getting hurt or losing a relationship, thus the term “emotional intelligence.
I would counter this with the fact that if you have enough emotional intelligence to be hurt or lose a relationship, you can take it out on someone else. But if you have enough emotional intelligence to recognize that you are hurting yourself by acting on your emotions, then this is a problem you’ve got to face.
I think the word “emotional” is a bit of a misnomer. Emotional intelligence is about understanding what others want and what they want. It’s also about being able to recognize that it is your emotions that are not being met in a healthy relationship. Sometimes it feels like the relationship isn’t working because you are making a huge effort to understand the other person and the relationship, but that is just a symptom of the actual problem.
Emotional intelligence is one of the reasons I love how we teach our students in our courses. We teach them to analyze and to problem solve. We teach them to take on a task and focus on what they are doing and how they are doing it. But we also teach them to be able to communicate their emotions. One of the things we talked about in our course is that people who are having a hard time with relationship conflicts do not have a lot of patience.
A good example of this is why I enjoy the term “emotional intelligence” in general. In the book “The Power of Positive Thinking” author Tony Schwartz, a psychologist, says that the best way to get someone to open up is to tell them that there is a problem without giving them a solution, and this is what we do in our course.
What we did in our course is give people a problem (the main character’s problems with his girlfriend) and then help them figure out ways to fix it with their own unique ways of solving it. One of the main tools we use in our course is to give people the idea that they can solve their problems by simply changing the way they think about their problems and the way they communicate with each other. We don’t think that everyone has to change their behavior completely.
The problem is that most people arent like that, and if we were to change how they think about their problems, we would have to change the way that they communicate with each other. This is because they are not just looking to solve their problems but rather are looking to form relationships with one another. If we were to change the way they communicate with each other, we would have to change their way of solving their problems.
We have to change the way they think about their problems. If they thought about them in a linear way, they would have a more linear thinking process. They would be able to see the more general aspects of things and their more specific problems. They would be more likely to view them as “issues” and “problems” rather than “tasks” and “challenges.” This is not the case.
The most common argument in relationships is that we’re all not emotionally intelligent because our relationships are not linear. Relationships are often a series of goals and resolutions, goals for which we have to work. If we’re not emotionally intelligent, we will not be able to see the big picture and appreciate what is really happening. Our actions will be reactive and shortsighted, and our relationships will be long-term and reactive.
