The other day, my girlfriend and I were talking about how we’ve both been raised with “perfect” parents. As soon as we said it, we both had a flashback to our childhoods. They never really had an issue with us “being perfect.” We always knew we could be better, and to hear our parents say it was like a punch in the stomach. But this statement really hit me hard.
Perfect parents aren’t that simple. There’s something about them that makes us think that we should be perfect, and that the only way we can get away with screwing up is if we’re perfect. It’s like the parents in that movie A Beautiful Mind.
And that’s why I thought it was such a good question to ask a girl, because girls really are that way. They are so easy to be with, and so easy to make fun of. If a girl wants you to be perfect, then you better be, or she won’t like you anymore. Now, as to why this statement is so valid. It has to do with our belief system. As humans, we are wired to believe that perfection is unattainable.
Our belief system has to do with our childhood. We are taught that perfection is unattainable, so we are always striving for it. We strive for it every day. We strive for it in school, in our careers, and in relationships generally. We are also taught that if we don’t achieve perfection, we are unlovable, and we are doomed to failure and sadness.
Perfection is unattainable. In fact, no matter how beautiful or skilled we are, how smart we are, or how perfect we think we are, it’s always going to be far from perfect. It’s easy to find a point to stop striving for it. We can find a point to start.
The thing is, the more we strive for it, the worse it becomes. We may learn to love it, but it doesn’t come easily and we are never in a place where we can fully enjoy it. It becomes all the more frustrating when we are constantly striving for it. We can find a way to enjoy it, but it is never quite as beautiful and never as satisfying, and we can never really enjoy what we are learning about.
We want to have the best sex we can, and we want to be in good physical shape. We want to be the best in our relationships, especially when it comes to marriage. But we want to do so without feeling like we are constantly striving for it. We want to enjoy our bodies, but we want to do so without feeling like it’s something our partners are constantly striving for.
We have come across this theme before, and many people find it incredibly uncomfortable. Why do we want to feel like we are constantly striving for something and feeling like we are constantly disappointed in what we have? But we want to feel good in our relationships, and we want to enjoy our bodies, and we want to do so without feeling like we are constantly seeking for the best.
This is something that I have found myself struggling with myself. I think this is because I am not one of those people who is constantly wanting and looking for something in a relationship. I really want to be with someone who is able to understand me, and who I feel like I can depend on, but I also want to be able to have my own interests without constantly needing to find someone who will do what I ask them to do.
The problem with this is that it’s easy to get caught up in the “I am just looking for someone who will do everything for me” mentality. And while we should be looking for that, and that is one of the most valid things to look for in a relationship, there are also things that you can do in your personal life that you don’t need to put on the back burner. If you are in a relationship with someone, and you have your own interests, hobbies, etc.