The concept of vertical relationship is one that I’ve been pondering, and I’m sure I’ve said this a hundred times before, but is it really such a bad thing? I mean sure, it can be a bit of a pain to “step up” vertically, but it’s not that big of a deal.
Vertical relationships are the relationships between two people that are not on a level of friendship, or any sort of friendship. These are the relationships that are usually based on a physical or emotional connection, or a shared history. The two people in a vertical relationship should always be in this state of being, and should be able to communicate and understand each other. There should be a good mutual understanding about the nature of the relationship between the two people, and its purpose.
Vertical relationships between two people, or two people and two fictional characters, or two fictional characters who are in an adventure story should be based on a fairly close amount of mutual understanding.
In the context of this post, a vertical relationship is any relationship in which the two people are in some kind of mutual relationship with each other. Any relationship which is based on the idea that one of the people is dependent on the other person or on the other person’s emotional feelings.
The point of relationships is to form and maintain a bond. Many people do not form a vertical relationship with their spouse. Many couples do not have a relationship which is based on mutual understanding. They see their relationship as a sort of “invisible” one. It is not like the way a relationship between a parent and children is based on mutual understanding. The parent is the one who is constantly giving and receiving physical affection.
Vertical relationships are like this because it is very easy to be upset with the partner you are seeing in the relationship. The one who you see as being your partner is your friend and that friend does not see you as being your partner. The emotional connection of the relationship is based on you being part of the person you have with. I think it’s an important distinction to make.
This is why I think of all of our relationships as “vertical relationships.” They are so deep that in a way they are more like friendships. The parent is the one constantly giving and receiving affection, the child is the one who receives affection and can be very jealous, etc.
It seems to me that we can have a lot of different types of relationships with people. We can have a parent-child relationship (or a parent-child-parent relationship, or a parent-child-child relationship, etc.) and a friendship with the person (or person-friend relationship, etc.). However, we can have a vertical relationship with someone.
Vertical relationships are the one relationship that is always in motion. For example, I have a mom and dad, a mom and a stepmom, a mom and her grandmother, a mom and her sister. They all give and receive affection, love, and are constantly working together, and I know I love them all.
Vertical relationships are those that make up the vast majority of your relationships. If you have a vertical relationship, you can ask for something from a man or woman, you can ask for something from a child that you are in a relationship with, you can ask for something from a friend, you can get a specific favor from an acquaintance, or you can get an award or a birthday present from someone in your life. Vertical relationships are the ones that make up most of us.