With relationships, it is not always a question of how good you are at the relationship you are in, but how good you can be at the relationship you want to be in. Often times, that’s not a bad thing. We look to the future and we want to have the best sex, we want to have the best relationship, we want to be the best version of ourselves, etc. It’s just in our heads.
If you want to have a great sex life, or have your best relationship, then you should be looking at your self-care and self-development as a whole. We all have a great sex life, we all have great relationships, and we all want to be the best version of ourselves. It is just in our heads.
I can’t even look at my sex life without imagining myself in pain. And I’m not the only one. I’m sure there are some of you who think the same thing. It’s pretty common for people to have a “relationship goal” that they want to achieve. You might say you want to have the best sex, or have the best relationship, or even be the best version of yourself.
The problem is that there are two different things that you can have in your mind. You can have the best sex or be the best version of yourself. There are two separate things that you can be, and they can be different. Your relationship goal is a way you express and manifest your sex drive.
In the past, I’ve talked about one of the biggest problems with having a relationship goal is that it becomes something you are trying too hard to achieve. There is a part of you that says, “I want to make this happen, I want to get this done.” There is a part of you that says, “I am so good at this, I’m way too good at this, I’m going to get this done.
The problem is you can’t be so good at everything at once. Just because you are good at this doesn’t mean you will always be good at it. You need to learn to work on your relationship goals, and not just make them about you. There is good and bad in having a sex drive, and both can be good together.
I like that we have two separate sex goals because I don’t believe in “one partner sex” or “one partner monogamy.” I think that you should do both at the same time. I also think that you should do them the exact same way, so you are not constantly comparing yourself to another person.
I would like to see us both having a long-term, committed relationship, with a clear set of relationship goals, that both of us would be happier with. I think we can do great things together. I’ve seen many people struggle with this. While I’m happy we have made the decision to begin a monogamous relationship, I am also frustrated and sad that we still havent been able to have a relationship that is fulfilling for both of us.
You’re not comparing yourself to someone else. You’re trying to figure out what it’s like to be me. That is the most important part of your relationship goal. If you want to be in a relationship that is fulfilling and has a clear set of relationship goals, then that’s something that is within your control.
I think that we are very lucky to be in a position where we are able to have some of this great relationship goals. It is not a given for us and for many, many people, but I think that it is worth it because I think that people who love each other would make better friends if we could make this kind of commitment.