I’m a woman who’s been in a rebound relationship for 5 years. I’ve gone through men and then women, and I can count on one hand the number of times I’ve had a “new relationship” that started out as a breakup. For a long time my ex-boyfriend was the last thing on my mind.
That is until I met my current boyfriend. I was so excited to begin a relationship with him. I thought that he would be the person I could be open with my feelings and not hide them. It turns out he was the very person I had been hiding my feelings from all along. The problem was that I also didn’t know how to tell him the truth, which is why he broke my heart.
The lesson on this is for new relationships to be intentional with each other. You must know when a person is telling you the truth. You must also be honest with your partner about your own feelings and needs. How you handle things will show in the other person’s actions.
The lesson I learned is that I was being dishonest with him and that I had to take the good parts of the past and the bad parts and learn to live with them. The lesson I learned is that if you are going to be honest about your feelings, you have to learn to be honest about yourself.
For an amicable, loving person, I’m sure that’s one of the harder lessons to learn. But for a person that’s emotionally unstable, or just plain selfish, it’s a hard lesson to learn.
I believe that if two people are honest about each other, they can have a healthy and happy relationship. There are always ups and downs to a relationship, but it is ultimately what we do with each other that makes all the difference. The key to a healthy relationship is being honest with yourself and each other. We are two people with very different personalities, yet we need each other to be happy.
While I am not a therapist, I can give you ideas of how to begin practicing this process.
First, take a deep breath, think about what you should say to each other in your own voice, and then write it down. Then listen to yourself. Then say it back. Take a few minutes to listen to your body too. If you can see yourself in your own words, you can be very honest with your feelings and intentions. That will help to get rid of any “stuck” thoughts or feelings you might be having.
That’s right. I’m talking about the process of being in the same space at the same time. We are stuck in our own thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. We are stuck in the same place for a reason, and we’re not going to be able to fix that now. That being said, there are ways to start getting in the same space or space time.
I’m talking about that first stage when you aren’t stuck in any of your thoughts, emotions, or behaviors. You can start getting in the same space or space time by saying things out loud and seeing what happens. It could be that you become more aware of the emotions you’re feeling, or that your behavior changes.