We’ve all been told it’s good to “live a life free of obligation.” In some ways, this is true, but it can also lead to burnout. It can be a full-time job that consumes our waking hours and leaves us feeling drained, or a social life that is full of drama with friends and family.
It seems like most of us have had relationships that were either “full-time jobs/social lives”, or “social lives/full-time jobs.” In other words, there’s the standard job, and then there is the other type of relationship.
As the saying goes, you can have a good life and still be a failure at relationships in the end. Its important to realize that in order to have a good life, we need to make a choice. If you live by your word, you don’t have to do something you don’t want to or that you don’t have to do. On the other hand, if you live by your actions, you can’t expect to have a good relationship every time.
One of the biggest mistakes I’ve made in my life is letting a bad relationship go. This isn’t to say that everyone has bad relationships, or that a bad relationship is always a good thing, but it’s important to recognize when you’re at fault for it. This goes for any relationship, but especially for couples. When things go wrong, it’s extremely tempting to blame the other person.
Ive been in a few relationships, and Ive learned that in the end its not about blame and feeling like you did something wrong, for everything. Its about realizing that it was you who did something wrong and making amends. And amends are hard, because they involve saying things like “I’m sorry and I understand how you feel,” and “I’ll make sure that it never happens again.
But in reality, those relationships that are based on feelings are often not as healthy as they seem. They become unstable when the other person makes rash decisions. It takes a lot of courage to make amends, and a lot of courage to say things like: “I dont have feelings for you.” or “I hope this never happens again.”, which is why so many relationships end before they even begin.
Some of these relationships turn into fights and arguments, and people who feel something for someone, even if they are not in love, end up feeling more than they bargained for. There is a saying that goes, “If you do not have a relationship with someone, you are not being authentic.” That is true in the sense that it takes a lot of courage to make a move and not have someone hold you accountable for anything, especially when it involves anger.
Another reason relationships fail is because people don’t feel emotionally attached to one another. In real life, we all have a close family member or friend that is our “best friend” or “best friend.” We don’t hold these people close to our heart because we just feel good around them, but because we feel that they are our “best friend.
We like to feel connected to our friends and family because it makes life easier. It’s a lot more fun to laugh at jokes and have someone you love tell you a dirty joke than it is to just be left alone with nothing to say to someone and just wait to find the time to say anything about something that is bothering you.
Of course we have our relationships, but the two that people most often see and talk about when talking about friendship are that our best friend is awesome and our best friends are awesome. The difference being that when we say that our best friend is awesome, we mean that he is awesome because he is awesome. When we say that our best friend is awesome, we mean that he is awesome because he is awesome, but our best friend is really awesome because he is awesome.
