It’s true. There is something about new relationships that makes them different than the ones we have had in the past. The chemistry is different. And while we can’t control the chemistry, we can control our behavior and how we react to it.
A lot of people say, “You can’t change old relationships,” but that is not true. You can. Not in the physical sense, but in the psychological sense. You can change what you think about the relationship. You can change your attitude. You can change your behavior. There are even ways of doing this on a deeper level, too.
The biggest problem in our dating lives is that we are too quick to judge and analyze behavior and relationships. While we do not know the full story of what happened, we know it was not right and it might have been better. We might have made a different choice. We might have treated someone like a stranger. It’s good to learn that lesson again, even if it’s only in our heads.
The thing about trying to change is that we can’t change what we don’t know. We can only change what is done right. Which is to say that there are always more important things to focus on.
As with most relationships these days, the relationship between people can be viewed in many different ways. It might be good to learn how to analyze people’s behavior, and to be more open about your own. For example, if you are with a person and they act differently from your expectations, you might try to change their behavior in ways that are positive for you.
We can all do this. There are always other things you can focus on. You cannot be the only one who can be happy, and you cannot be the only one who makes you feel good. You need others that make you feel good to have the energy to do so. It is amazing how often we are put in situations where we are not happy or where we feel that the relationship is not good. This is a big reason why relationships fail.
In the video, we see how the first two people in a relationship will often get along perfectly well. However, when the third person is added, the new relationship becomes more complex. It’s like adding another partner to the mix. In the example we see, Colt and the first two are on the same island at an amusement park. They both have guns, they are fighting, and they are fighting all the while. The third person is the leader of the Visionary’s.
This is the one point where I’m not sure this new relationship energy is really “good.” The first two can be very nice, but they make it hard for the third person to be a “loyal” partner. What happens when they don’t like the new guy? Eventually they’ll just start to get on each other’s nerves, and they will have a hard time sticking together.
The problem is that it doesn’t seem like Colt is the type of guy who will get along with anyone. I can’t say that I necessarily disagree with that, but it is something to think about.
I think we can go back to the old saying, “You dont know what love is until you have sex with someone.” This is true for many relationships, but there are some people who just cant get along with anyone. Even after one has built a meaningful relationship with someone, they can still get on each others nerves and never find it very easy to be with someone else.