My wife and I have been married for almost eight years and have been sexual together for over 3 years. We’ve only had one fight and are in love.
Okay, that was a weird statement to make but we’re having a lot of trouble with the fact that our sex life is not that great. Sometimes we get a little heated, and sometimes we get really, really hot. We don’t know why this is so, or if its even a problem. As a rule, we would prefer physical contact to be initiated with words.
I guess we don’t initiate physical contact because we would prefer to see other people actually do it, not just assume that we are just being “fond” or “romantic”. This may be because we are both very touchy-feely people, but I can also see how it may be because we are so used to being the initiating party.
It’s actually quite a touchy topic, but it’s one that I think we need to talk about a little bit more. I know this because my wife, who is a very touchy-feely person, has said that she doesn’t initiate physical contact for a variety of reasons. To her, it’s just a little bit of a turn-off.
I think that there is a tendency to see touch as a negative, so if you say you don’t initiate physical contact, you are seen as somehow less than. But I think that there also is a different way of looking at it. I think that both of us are somewhat comfortable with our sexuality and with how we approach it. And I think that we both hold this view that if you are comfortable with it, then it is okay.
I don’t think it has to be physical touch. I think it can be more than that, as we’ve talked about before, its about feeling into someone else, and that can take many forms. It can be with a glance, a touch, a feeling, or just a silent understanding. I think that it can even be a non-verbal understanding, as when we are talking on the phone and I know that you are only giving me a glance at this point.
I think most women are comfortable with some form of physical touch, but I think most men are not. And it’s not just because of the differences in the way men and women perceive the same action. It’s because of something else.
I think that there are many people out there who feel as though they are the only person on earth who has never initiated a physical contact, or even a non-verbal communication. I think its because we are so afraid of it. We’re afraid of feeling something that we haven’t experienced. And when we fear something so deeply, our bodies become so accustomed to what we fear that our body’s reaction to the initial contact becomes automatic and it doesn’t even register.
Your body is a very good example of the “automatic” that happens when we are afraid. Our bodies react very quickly and without our conscious thought because our fear is as much a reaction to something we are afraid of as it is to something that we are afraid of. So we get so conditioned to not feel the fear, we don’t even register it. Our bodies are also so accustomed to fear that they become used to what they fear.