We are constantly telling and receiving messages in the various ways we communicate. Often, these are not what we intend to receive or how we would like to receive them. It can be helpful to ask yourself what is the message that you want to hear and what are the ways in which you want to be heard.
In a relationship, it’s easy to find yourself feeling hurt when someone doesn’t speak to you in the way that you’d like. But when you ask yourself if you’re just giving someone a “what’s up?” message, you’re actually giving them an “I just don’t like this” message. We find it useful to think about whether or not the ways that we communicate is helpful to the other person or just a way for us to annoy them.
One way in which we can communicate without giving a “whats up” response is by saying: “I don’t like this”, “I don’t get it”, or “I’m not sure”. It’s the latter two that lead to a more intense “I don’t get it” response.
A really good way to start a relationship is to communicate your feelings, your values, and your expectations. But when you start a relationship with someone who does not value these things, youll probably find that nothing you say or do convinces them that everything you say or do is going to be positive.
People who are in a relationship with someone who doesn’t value communication and honesty are more likely to feel like theyre in a relationship with a lying, manipulative person. They can’t tell the difference between someone who is truly committed to them and someone who just wants to be friends.
This is why speaking openly about your feelings and needs can be an important part of a healthy relationship. So, in the end, this applies to relationships with friends and family as well. For some, a lack of communication can be the most important thing that keeps them from being a happy and fulfilled person. We’re lucky to have a friend who understands this. If you dont know, send her a message.
I have a friend who is so good at building communication bridges that her relationships with both her friends and family are a lot more enjoyable. When she’s not busy being “real” with her friends, she’s talking to her family about the important things in life.
When I ask her about the best way to build a communication bridge between two people, she says, “Sometimes you gotta go out and find the people you trust and build a relationship with them.
We have to build communication bridges. Not just between parents and kids, but between people as well. If you have a relationship with someone, its important to keep in mind that you are creating a bridge. When you spend time with someone, make sure you are not just talking about your past. You have to consider their past too. Sometimes, they tell you everything. Sometimes, they tell you nothing at all.
A relationship is not a marriage. But a relationship can be a marriage, and some times that’s even better. It’s nice when we don’t just talk about past events. It’s nice when we are not just talking about future events.