Self-awareness is important, but it’s just one of the facets of the life of a human being. Another is our relationships. We may have a few good ones, but we’re all so busy living our lives that we rarely stop and think about what we have going on.
Self-awareness gives us a sense of control over our own lives, but it also gives us opportunities to learn about other people’s lives. Self-awareness allows us to understand who and what we are in the context of other people, and to understand how other people, when they are aware of us, have different ways of perceiving and thinking about us.
Our relationships are like a very important part of our identity. We are aware of who we are in the context of our relationships, our jobs, our families, our friends, and our communities. We may not take the time to think about every aspect of our lives and relationships, but we are often able to make sense of them.
We are so aware of the “other” that we can often overlook the similarities. For example, many of our relationships are based on sexual attraction. This is true whether we are in a dating relationship or a committed one that is lasting longer than a year. And this is true whether we are in a romantic relationship or a relationship that is just for one night or one where there is a lot of pressure to make it work.
This is a problem because it often leads to the feeling that our partners are cheating on us. Which is a lie. We are not cheating on anyone. We are just playing together. If you are really into a relationship and its success, you can look at your life and see the similarities between you and your partner. This can be an enormous relief.
The problem is when the two of you are simply talking about the mundane realities of your life, then it can seem as if you are having sex. Which is a pretty ridiculous thing to do. In fact, I don’t think I would want to have sex with someone I wasn’t in a committed relationship with. Being in a committed relationship is not the same thing as having sex with someone you already have sex with.
The problem is when you go from talking about mundane things to talking about sex. Most of our relationships are more than just two people talking about mundane things. Some of our couples have been together for decades. And the majority of them are in committed relationships. As a rule, I don’t think that sex makes a lot of sense in the context of a relationship.
The reasons we have sex are because we want to and because we are attracted to each other. The problem is when you don’t have the slightest idea of what attraction means. It is one thing to say that when you look at someone, you get a feeling of something.
I think it is important to be honest about what you want before you get down on one knee and ask some guy to marry you. And I think that sex is something that should be discussed openly, but I also think that if you are not completely comfortable with it, it will be a waste of your time.
Just to be clear, I do not think that sex is a waste of time. In fact, I think the entire world would be a much better place if people never did anything they weren’t comfortable with. There are many things that I do for pleasure that I would do for no other reason than I like to do them. I just think that it is important to keep things on the down low, especially for people you are dating.