The boundaries in the counseling relationship are established, not defined.
If you want to get to the heart of the matter, the boundaries in the counseling relationship are defined. This is because relationships (in general) aren’t linear and they don’t have definite ends. They can go on and on and on and on. If we start to think of boundaries as being permanent, we can’t expect to be able to maintain healthy relationships. Our boundaries are like the lines on the map of the earth.
The problem is we tend to think of those lines as being fixed, and since theyre fixed we assume they will always be. But since they can change, they can change at any point in time. Our boundaries are also like the boundaries between countries. They shouldnt be static and rigid. They should be flexible and dynamic. A person shouldnt be rigid in their boundaries.
You see, we have a relationship with boundaries. It’s one of those things that we think of as being fixed and rigid, but in reality they are really not. But instead of thinking of them as fixed, we think of them as being fixed, but they aren’t. This is why it’s important to be flexible and dynamic. We shouldnt be rigid or fixed in our boundaries.
There are times when we feel like we’ve created a rigid boundary between our selves and our relationship with the outside world. We tend to think we are not open to love or friendship from our friends and family, so we think that the boundaries we have are not good and have to be broken.
This is a very common reason why people break up. The best way to break up is to have boundaries you can feel are strong enough to stand up against the pull of other people. You are not rigid about your boundaries. You are flexible. When you create your boundaries, you are saying, “This is a place where I can be myself, and this is a place where I don’t want to be.
That’s true. The boundaries we have are not the only thing that matter. We also need to think about our own thoughts and feelings about those boundaries. We are not rigid about them, but we do want to be able to say them directly and without them being a burden. If we are not saying, This is a place where I can be myself, and this is a place where I dont want to be, then we are not being ourselves and that is what we need to change.
I like to think of boundaries as a kind of contract that is signed and sealed by the client before we begin work. The boundaries are the space within which clients can say they do not want to be there. They are the space in which they can tell us, “I do not want to be here.
Many counselors and therapists feel strongly that boundaries are important. They want to be able to say, “I have a boundary of what I can and cant do. This is where I am. There is no going back.” This is a fundamental assumption that must be made in so many of the counseling relationship discussions.
This is an interesting idea. I would argue that boundaries are important because they can prevent clients from becoming over-involved with one counselor. In other words, they’re important because they can prevent clients from being dragged down into a situation where they end up being stuck. It’s been proven that clients who are dragged down into a situation where they find themselves out of their depth tend to be less successful in the long run.