I have a lot of friends who have been through it and we all understand that there are times when you have to leave. You have to make a decision about whether to break up, and if you’re on the fence, you need to make that decision in a way that is respectful and kind.
But there are times when you have to make a decision that goes against the direction you want to go in. When you have to break up with someone because they have kids, it is important to understand that they don’t want you to leave, but they don’t want you to spend time with them. It is important to understand that they aren’t saying that they want you to leave, but they are saying that they don’t want you to spend time with them anymore.
For many of us, it is easier to just leave, because we have someone to spend time with. But this is not always a reasonable decision. Instead of leaving, children need to know that when they move on, their parent/s will not be there to fill the void. A child who understands this will avoid any future conflict.
This is a difficult situation to sort through because you don’t want to give up the relationships you have, you want to protect them from the feelings you have about those relationships. However, not everyone is in the position to do so. If you are an adult in a relationship that has been going on for some time, it may be easier to leave and try to move on with your life.
Most people who leave an emotionally abusive relationship with children do so out of anger, but not all do. Some are just upset because they didn’t get what they expected. Some are angry that the relationship ended, not because of the child. Some are angry that they are not getting their way and they want to lash out. Some are enraged that they are being treated as if they are below them. Some of these emotions may be out of your control.
You have the choice to either leave what you have or keep trying to change it. You will not always be a child. Sometimes you will be an individual but most of the time you will be a child. You might get a lot of things you never deserved and you might get a lot of things you wanted. You might be in love with someone you never should have been in love with. You might be being abused by the child’s parent. You might be the parent’s child.
The problem is that we really do not know what these feelings are or even if they are real. There is no way to know for sure unless you try to figure them out for yourself. But the fact is that we’re constantly bombarded with the lie of choice. We’re told if we choose to leave we will be happy or we will be miserable. This is a lie. Even if you believe the lie, you will be miserable.
The truth is that we can leave an emotionally abusive relationship if we want to. In fact, we can choose to be happy. We can choose to love our children, and we can choose to spend our time with them. But the fact is that we cannot make a choice if you are the one who is causing all the pain.
If you’re hurting your kids, then you have to change. Not the other way around. If you’re hurting your kids, then it’s time to leave. In fact, you should be leaving right now. Your kids may not be happy because you chose to leave, but you chose leaving. You chose to leave because you’re too insecure to be around them anymore. You chose to be around them because you were too insecure to be around them anymore.
The reason you don’t want to leave is because you never knew you were insecure. You never knew that you couldn’t trust your marriage because you never knew you were insecure. You never knew that you could not trust your kids because you never knew you were insecure. You never knew how insecure you were, because you never knew you were insecure. You never knew that you were insecure, because you never knew you were insecure.