I am a recovering narcissist, and have been for quite some time. I used to think that my relationship with my significant other was the issue, and I still do, but I’ve been able to find ways to forgive myself for my bad behavior. This has made it easier for me to forgive others, and I am so happy to be able to be with the people that I love.
Well, that’s not the only reason I am happy right now. I think it’s my relationship with my family that I’m loving most and getting the most out of. I used to constantly worry that my relationships with my mother were the issue, but now that I’m getting more out of my relationships with my mother, I’m starting to be able to see that they aren’t.
Forgiveness is the key to a healthy relationship. A toxic, narcissistic relationship will take everything from you and leave you with nothing. When someone is narcissistic, they think they are better and more important than anyone in the world. They think they are superior and are worthy of anyone that they love. If you are on that side of the relationship, it can be hard to forgive yourself.
Im sorry for the pain you are going through, but there is no way to be perfect. A toxic narcissistic relationship can make the very act of forgiving you seem impossible. The narcissist will say, “I am so sorry my feelings were hurt. I never should have been so cruel to you.” The very act of forgiving someone that they have hurt can make them feel even worse. It can only be a sign of weakness.
Narcissists can be very understanding when it comes to their partner’s pain. Of course, they will also take it out on you. In many cases they will even act on their anger to shut you up. As it turns out, the narcissist isn’t capable of doing that. One day when she was drunk, she snapped at him and he lashed out. He started punching her, and she ended up in hospital. They were reunited, and he was not punished.
She wasnt even aware of what he had done. He was acting out of jealousy and fear because he had a new woman, so he wasnt going to lose her to him. He was so caught up in his own needs that he didnt realize he was hurting her. It wasnt possible that he would have broken her and hurt her.
I know some people would say that this is not possible. I dont think it’s possible. I think it is more probable that he just didnt know that he had hurt her and didnt realize it, and that she got in his way and made him lose the opportunity to hurt her.
You are going to have to take a lot of what is said here with a grain of salt. I know that people will say that this is completely out of character for me, but I would like to point out that I have not, in the last year and a half or so, been involved in a relationship (physical or otherwise) that has gotten this bad.
I think we are all too comfortable with being narcissistic. We are all too comfortable with getting high on our own adrenaline and being in the right place at the right time, and we think that this is the way it is supposed to be. Many of us are not ready to face that reality. We think our relationships are just all going to be about the drama, the drama, the drama. We think we are going to find love in our relationships, but I think this is just a facade.
I think there are a lot of people out there who aren’t ready to face it. When a person is not ready for what love is, they are at a higher risk of becoming depressed. I’m not saying you should avoid relationships because they may not be where you want to be in life, but I’m saying as a general rule, stay away from any relationship with someone who has a narcissist personality disorder and doesn’t seem to have much self-awareness.
