I can’t tell you how many ladies I’ve met who have been ghosted by their long-term partners. Some are over the moon about the betrayal, but others are heartbroken. I get it. I’ve been there. Ghosting is a form of communication that you can’t always have your way with, but it doesn’t mean you have to stop being a good friend.
Being ghosted is an incredibly humiliating feeling, and when it happens to people you care about it can be even more so. When a woman ghosted me I was devastated. Not so much because she stole my heart, but because she just used me and not the good parts of me to make herself look better. I’m not talking about the ghosting-induced heartbreak, either.
Ghosting is a social faux pas and its very common for women to ghost men. Some may argue that its only women who ghost men, but in my experience it happens to everyone. I ghosted my boyfriends and was devastated. I had to go to counseling to sort this out. I had to tell him that I was sorry.
Not to say that you shouldn’t ghost someone else, but I had to go to counseling to tell him that I was sorry. This is a topic that gets asked a lot, and I’m not going to lie and say that I have the most up-to-date information on the subject, so the short version is that ghosting is a big deal. It has to do with how we deal with problems and is a very personal thing.
I think ghosting a boyfriend is a big deal. I mean, when you know that someone is cheating on you, and you also know that you can’t have a relationship with them, what do you do? You can’t just keep your heart in a box, because you don’t want to be the person who keeps your heart in a box.
I’ve been ghosting for a long time. I have to admit that over time we’ve become very good at it. I think it is because we’ve grown up with an expectation, and we know that if we’re not going to be with someone for a long time, we might as well be doing it ourselves. We’ve gotten to the point where we have a very clear idea of what our relationship’s like, and what is expected of us.
The problem is that there is no “expected” when you’re in a relationship. You are not expected to be in a relationship. You are expected to be in a relationship. We’ve all met the person we are going to be with. And that is a lot better than being in a relationship with someone who seems perfectly fine, or who seems perfectly okay in a relationship with someone else.
Of course, not all relationships end up the way we thought they would. In fact, there are situations where a long-term relationship is so destructive that the one person who was supposed to be in it just wants out. It happens all the time. We all meet the person we are going to be with, and it seems like we’re going to be together for life. And, as bad as that is, it’s nice to know that we can just be ourselves.
This is probably the only situation I know of where I would say it’s perfectly okay to ghost to someone after a long relationship. Its like, if you have a partner who is just as great as you are, you might as well just hang out together for the rest of your life.
This is an excellent point. And a good reason to hang out with your partner, even if it isn’t as fun as you had hoped. If you and your partner aren’t exactly compatible, you should hang out with someone else and enjoy the person you are with.
