We go through cycles of self-awareness. If things are going well, we feel good. If things are going wrong, we feel bad. It’s part of the learning process.
The first thing to remember is that it’s not that we are feeling good or bad, but that we are experiencing a feeling. It’s one of the most useful tools we have for making sense of our lives. For example, the last time I did this exercise for my therapist, I was feeling pretty stressed. I suddenly realized I was feeling sad, and I started crying. When I cried, I remembered I was feeling happy and wanted to do something for the happiness.
For some people, feeling happy can be a good thing. For others, feeling sad is a sign that something is wrong. It can also be a form of self-deprecation. For example, I felt bad for not being able to play “The Sims” last night because I was so worried about my Sim losing his job. “Why would he lose his job?” I thought. “I don’t know. Maybe he’s depressed.
I don’t think it’s so much an either/or thing. A recent study by the University of Miami showed that people who felt happy more often had better job satisfaction, and people who felt sad more often had poorer job satisfaction. It’s clear that feelings of happiness are not just in your head (or on autopilot) but that they’re also in the physical world.
I don’t know if this is true, but I’ve seen this theory put forth before. People who feel happy more often are more likely to work more, and people who feel sad more often are less likely to work.
In other words, it seems that feeling happy and sad are two sides of the same coin. Feeling happy might be a quick response to a stressful situation. Feeling sad is an attempt to deal with feelings of sadness. Both are good things. It seems that the feelings you have in each moment are the sum of your past experiences and the future experiences you have in the present moment. That’s why it makes sense for happiness to be a good emotion to have.
Happiness and sadness have a natural relationship. You could be happy and sad at the same time, and it wouldn’t affect your ability to get work done. However, you would likely feel more relaxed and less stressed when you were negative.
The only difference between them, is that sadness is a reflection of past experiences, while happiness is the sum of the future and the present. For example, if you are sad, you may be sad because you have recently lost a relationship, or even because you just lost your job. Happiness, on the other hand, is the sum of your future and present experiences.
I know this is going to seem like a negative statement, but I think the idea is not to be sad about the situation you’re in, but instead to be happy about the future you have.
So it’s important to take pleasure from the present. If you can get pleasure from the present moment, you will be able to take pleasure from the future you have and the past you have. But this shouldn’t be seen as a negative statement. As a matter of fact, it is a positive statement because if you can get pleasure from the next moment, the next moment is the one that you are most likely to have.