The access relationship is a way to describe the relationship between a person and an item, person, or object. For example, the access relationship between “my friend” and a specific object, such as “the door” or “the chair”.
In the beginning of my friend’s relationship with the door, she didn’t even know what the door was. She just put it against her chest and went about her life. Now she has a new object which she can use with her fingers—a door that will open to a certain degree. You can read more about it here.
Access relationships are actually the subject of a book called the Access Relationship Theory, which is an attempt to understand how people relate to their objects, person, or item. The book argues that the way we relate to an object is actually a function of our attitudes toward it and our emotional connection with it.
Access relationships are really important because what we call “objectivity” is really just a function of how we understand how our own attitudes toward our objects affect our judgments about them. And if you really think about it, no object actually has one way of being.
Access relationships are not just about “looking for a certain object” in order to judge one. They are more about what we think we “know” about one object and the way our emotional connection with it influences how we judge those objects. They are really about how someone’s attitude toward a certain object influences the way they connect with it.
So what we usually see in this regard is an object that is a huge part of our identity or self, and we are so into it that we try to make it the object of our deepest feelings. This is one of the most common forms of self-centeredness, but it’s really just a very small minority of the people out there.
It’s also one of the most common forms of self-blindness. People become fixated on things because of how they feel about them, not because they are true. This doesn’t mean that the object of our love or affection is not important either, but it means that these feelings are not the ones we are most invested in. When we feel attached to something, it tends to keep us from seeing everything else that is around us.
“Love” is a really loaded word. It’s not just about love and affection. It’s about wanting to be with someone, being able to depend on them, being able to be one with them. It’s the most basic feeling that we have, and if it’s not something that you are all that interested in, then you’ve got a problem.
This is so true. In fact, the word “love” is almost never used to mean “affection.” We’re talking about the desire to share who we are with somebody. And that, most of the time, is the same desire that most people have to be in someone’s company.
Love is a feeling of connection. Thats it. It is not about being physically in someone’s company, it is not about being dependent on somebody, it is not about being in their presence all the time. Its about being able to trust someone with your most basic needs and to be able to depend on them.