The first quote that came to my mind was, “Every relationship is an abusive relationship.” The second quote that came to mind is, “Relationships can be abusive, but they are not that bad.” Then we have the one of the most popular quotes, which is, “Relationships are only abusive when they are abusive.
The problem with this one is that it’s so true. It’s also one of the most quoted and accepted phrases in our community of internet gamers, and it seems very universal. But it’s wrong, because it’s an outdated way to look at relationships.
Relationships are not only abusive when they are abusive, but just as importantly they can be toxic and lead to emotional abuse. If we ever become aware that our relationships are abusive, we have a responsibility to take steps to prevent them from being abusive. However, we can’t always prevent our partners from abusing us. We can, however, actively mitigate the problem by being aware of it and doing things to prevent it from happening.
What can you do to mitigate the problem of abusive relationships? The answer is, of course, as always, “it depends”. There are a few easy things you can do to minimize the risk of being involved in an abusive relationship. Of course, it’s important to be open and honest about your feelings and your expectations, but it’s equally important that you learn to distinguish between being emotionally abused and being emotionally abused.
The first step is to recognize what you both are. An abusive relationship typically consists of one partner who is acting out of resentment or entitlement. However, this isn’t always the case, and it is often the case that one or both partners are acting out of fear. The second step is to make sure that you don’t feel afraid. This is the hardest thing to do, and for some people the greatest accomplishment of all.
I’ve heard that people who are abused are usually afraid of being attacked. This is not always true. Some people are afraid of the outside world because they aren’t sure that they belong. The third step is to recognize what you both are, and this is the most difficult step of all. You can tell that you are abusive because you are doing things that you don’t agree with. What you both are is your own opinion, and your own thoughts.
I used to be a bit of a control freak. I had a very strict set of rules about how things should be done and how i should behave in certain situations. I used to believe that I could do anything I wanted to do, and that if I didn’t agree with someone, they could do whatever they wanted to me. Not really sure if I still hold that same belief.
And now you are just another person who thinks you can do whatever you want to them. To me that is abuse. You are not giving them the ability to do what they want to you. You are abusing them in ways that they dont agree with.
This isn’t an easy topic. There is not one set of rules for how we should behave in certain situations. Each person is different and so is the behavior and language they use. In fact there is an entire website called “Rules for Respectable Relationships” which discusses these issues and more.
If you are abusive, you are in for a world of hurt. There is no way to avoid being “abusive”, but there are ways to minimize its effects. First, you need to acknowledge that you are abusing and then do something about it. In the case of a relationship this is often a conversation, or at the very least a sincere apology (not the one that goes, “It’s not my fault you’re being such a bitch.