I think relationship damage is something most people don’t think about. But let me explain. Relationships are built on trust, affection, and honesty, among other things. If one of those things is lost, the relationship suffers.
People can be damaged with many things, but being hurt by a partner is probably not a first on that list of things someone will probably think of. And let me tell you, it hurts. It hurts bad. It hurts really bad. A person who is hurt by a partner, or even a friend, can be devastated. Even the most experienced, well-intentioned, and careful person is not immune to these feelings.
This is one of the reasons that the very best marriages break up and that relationships don’t last forever. It’s true that the best and most healthy relationships don’t last forever, but that doesn’t mean that they can’t be damaged. To prevent and heal a damaged relationship, the best thing you can do is to learn to trust that you can love someone again.
The key to a healthy relationship is to learn to trust again and to let go of who you thought you were. This is not always easy because one of the most common feelings a person has after a breakup is that they were not in the right relationship, and that they were wrong for each other. It’s easy to imagine that this is just another form of “shoulds.” However, there is another way to get past this fear and to see that you can love someone again.
One is to forgive yourself for what you did. I think that is the most important thing. The other is to trust that it will take time to heal. This is the most difficult one to put into practice. Forgiveness can take a long time and can be very difficult to achieve. But if you keep practicing, the time will come.
I think this is the first time I’ve ever heard someone use the phrase “forgiveness is hard.” In fact, this is one of the first times I’ve heard anyone make a comment about the difficulty of forgiveness. In an interview with The Guardian, John Gray, a law professor at Harvard, said that for the most part people are just “self-indulgent” people.
This is also one of the first times Ive heard someone say that they believe that a relationship can be damaged by the difficulty of forgiving. It makes sense to me. If you think about it, almost every relationship in which you may have to commit to something, you’ve just committed something to, too. If you have to go to war with someone, you’ve just got to choose sides.
That said, if you do ever go to war, you have to forgive. A soldier can never be forgiven for leaving his unit in ruins because he failed to tell his commanding officer about an enemy raid he had nothing to do with. That doesn’t mean you should never forgive. I think forgiveness is fine in general, but it tends to be a lot easier to forgive someone who is the cause of your problems, rather than someone who has done nothing wrong to you in the first place.
The other side of that coin is that if you forgive someone, it puts you in a very bad light. You can’t trust anyone, and no matter how long you have known them, you are never going to be able to trust anyone else. That is, unless you are willing to be the person they believe you are.
Most of us can think of at least one person in our lives who has done something that was not good. Unfortunately, most of us are also the most likely to forgive them. We have no faith in anyone other than ourselves. We don’t think of ourselves as forgiving, but we are. So this makes our relationships even more unstable.
